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As I looked back at my previous entries, I realised that every entry is very long. haha So those who are viewing my blog, I am sorry that you have to see tons and tons of words right in front of your very eyes. Sorry for the lengthy entries as though I am writing some essays. But this is how I am. I can be very talkative if I know the person real well. But sometimes knowing the person real well may end up having nothing much to talk about because we would have run out of things to say. By that time, silence is very much treasured. That silence is full of hidden messages or words in it. Sometimes we don't need language to carry out our communication, we just need sincere hearts. (^_^)
It was my cousin's wedding yesterday at Intercontinental Hotel. She is the 2nd eldest cousin in my paternal family. Haha Also, she is the one who gave me my English name when I was born. I couldn't believe that she is getting married. It felt so unreal. She looked real pretty on that day and the wedding ceremony was very grand-something like royalty and fantasy theme. During the solemnization, the pastor asked her husband that classic question- if him, the wife, both mothers are in a sinking ship. Who will he save? He hesitated loh and someone behind called out-"save the maid!!" haha so funny..The pastor continued on saying that there are 12 rules of marriage. I only remember one amusing rule- Do not shout at each other unless the house is on fire.
I was making attempts to talk to my youngest cousin yesterday. So I brought in a *magic topic*- maplestory cos I guessed she plays that. I feel that to connect with little kids, have to drop into their own world. As some saying goes like this- if they don't join you ,then, you join them.
After conversing with many people all this while, I realised that people have a common secret desire-they want people to truly understand them and want people to hear them out whenever they feel like talking about it. Unfortunately, people around them don't seem to care. It became more of a superficial friendship. They get what they can gain from each other's friendship and then that's about it-case closed. That's why they always say- true friends is like a precious gem-so hard to find.
In my opinion...If everyone feels that way (need someone to understand them), why don't they just step forward and start understanding the other person first? Assuming that the other person is going to co-operate, then they will understand each other. No one is going to complain that no one understands them. If everyone comes forth and be open with this particular secret desire, then they will realise everyone around them thinks the same way too. So how do they not understand each other?
According to Marx Weber, there are 4 main types of social action.
First type: Traditional action- action determined by habit, unthinking almost automatic behavior in response to everyday stimuli.
Second type: Affective action- action determined by the person's feelings, emotions, attachments, etc
Third type: Instrumentally rational action- actions where things and people are treated or used as conditions or means to attain the person's rationally
pursued and calculated ends.
People become friends because of calculated motives.
Fourth type: Value rational action- action determined by the conscious belief in the value for its own sake ( not as a mean towards an ulterior goal)
People become friends because of their personalities...
I have been mentioning about how sociology is interesting. It really brings me to a whole new level of understanding of the world. I realised that there are some things that I have thought it through before but just that, they are explained much clearer and in more academic terms and analogies. I like to ponder about life. (^_^)
I guess I have written enough for today.
Bye-bee~~
writtern @9:15 PM
